Coping with depression after divorce for men can be a tricky thing when the world seems to have turned against you. I know a few weeks after my divorce, once I realised this was real and not going away I fell into a deep pit of sadness that it seemed would never end. The same is true for so many men, even if they wear a smile or laugh about it when you see them. In the hearts of many men, a sadness that threatens to overwhelm them exists once the woman they pledged their life too says they no longer love them and it is over.
I was talking to a friend of mine the other day who was a keen ‘people watcher’ as he calls it and he asked me “are men happier after divorce than women?”. He was confused as I seemed happy and well adjusted (now), while he knew another guy who was a total mess and lost his job recently and he had been divorced for 2 years! He of course had seen a number of divorced women in various states and was just not sure who was better off in terms of happiness at least.
Men and money and divorce are a breeding ground of resentment, anger, and often self destruction as we focus on this one aspect of splitting from our wife. The problem is, that this should NOT be your focus if you ever want to recover form the divorce and move on with your life. In fact, it hinders your ability to create more wealth as well as happiness the more this thorn sticks into your side!
The effects of divorce on men have been well documented, but strangely not advertised anyway near as much as the effects on women. Women of course struggle and go through many of the same problems men go through and many different problems as well, but the toll on a mans emotional health is not as well known.
If you have come here because your life looks like total shit because of your divorce then I hope to have some more posts up soon to give you some idea of what I went through and how I managed to crawl out of the hole that it puts you in.